Speaking In Front of a Group – What a Privilege!

Did you know that public speaking – or speaking in front of a group – is the most common human fear?  That’s right, it surpasses even death.  That means that more people would rather be in the coffin than delivering the eulogy.  Hard to believe, but true.

Actually, I used to feel that way myself.  After enduring a couple of humiliating experiences speaking in front of large groups when I was young, I decided I never wanted to put myself in that situation again.  At some level, I would rather have died than stand and speak in front of a group.

Now, having overcome that fear, I can’t think of a greater privilege than being able to speak in front of people.  It’s a real joy.  When I’m speaking to a group, I get to tell my listeners what I’m feeling or thinking in each moment.  I get to connect with them and be real in front of them.

Speaking Circles offer that opportunity for people.  When a person is speaking in a Circle, they get to be exactly how they want to be in front of the group.  They get to voice what they’re thinking and feeling.   They can even choose to not speak, and simply stand in silence in front of the group for their whole turn.  No one tells them they need to do or say anything different.

And always, in every Speaking Circle turn, the person up front is appreciated by their listeners.  They get to be seen, heard and accepted for exactly who they are and how they are in each moment.  That, also, is a privilege.  Who knew speaking in a group could be so enriching?

What benefits can you see from speaking in public?  What are some places you might be able to speak publicly?  What would be your intentions when you do take this opportunity?  Please feel free to share your comments below.

Speaking Authentically – Why It Matters

Speaking authentically is a vital skill that can support all areas of your life.  Wherever communication takes place, the more you can speak what you’re really feeling – speaking from the heart rather than from your head – the more effective your message will be and your ability to connect with people.

You get to choose how you think, feel and speak in every moment. If it’s honest, it will land with your listeners.  If it’s not, people will pick that up, too.  When speaking truthfully with another person or a group, you’re not trying to do anything or get anywhere with them.  You’re simply being real with them and yourself.

By speaking authentically, you open the door for true connection with others. If you’re being yourself and speaking from your heart, people will naturally connect with you.  They will want to listen to what you have to say.  And often, this invites them to speak the same way, to be real with you.  This is where true connection happens.

So in any interaction, it pays to be yourself and speak authentically.  Your listeners will appreciate this and will likely be just as open and real with you.  Speak your truth today.

What does speaking authentically look like for you?  Where and with whom could you practice doing this more?  What kind of benefits could you experience from doing this?  Please feel free to share your comments below.

Welcome to the Speakers Studio Blog!

The Speakers Studio blog will regularly offer information and ideas on essential speaking and listening practices.  Skillful speaking isn’t something we’re born with; it’s something we learn and improve through understanding and practice.

You’ll learn the importance of speaking authentically as a way to get your message across with impact and to connect with people in a meaningful way.  You’ll learn about the art of listening and understand why this skill is so important to effective communication.

By reading this blog regularly you’ll discover ways you can be a more engaging, natural speaker – as well as an attentive, available listener.  Speaking and listening well in all situations can be immensely beneficial in how you relate to people and how well you operate in the world.

We look forward to supporting you to be a better communicator in every area of your life.  And we look forward to receiving any comments you have about these posts.  Thanks so much!